The sexual assault seminar may not be the best place to meet a sex partner

What happens after boy meets girl at a meeting of the Collaboration of Male Peer Educators Against Sexual Assault and Stereotypes (COMPASS)? The Michigan State University group’s mission:

We seek to educate our community, and particularly men, about sexual assault and how to prevent it, teach men how to interact with and assist survivors of sexual assault, support campus or community organizations and groups that seek to raise awareness about sexual violence and how to prevent it, engage men in dialogue about how their status and privilege can be used to create positive change on both personal and community levels, and confront stereotypes surrounding men and issues of masculinity.

This question is answered in “An unwanted touch. Two lives in free fall. A dispatch from the drive to stop sexual assault on campus.” (Bridge, January 19, 2017):

They first met in 2013 through a campus group called Compass. Ironically, the group’s mission was to help men create a safer and more respectful campus, to support women students. The son of a Birmingham psychologist and psychiatrist, political progressives, Nathan saw himself as a political being, a person trying to do good in the world.

As with most people accused of crimes, the cisgender guy here was popular with his mom:

“He is a humanitarian. He’s the sensitive one. He’s the kind of guy you want dating your daughter. That’s the kind of person he is,” his mother, soft-spoken and weary-looking, told me. “You know, he conducted training in sexual harassment…” He was so proud of his involvement in Compass that he invited his mother to attend a couple of meetings with him.

Well, you can probably guess what happens next. Unusually for today’s college students (see Missoula, below), it seems that (kangaroo court) plaintiff and defendant were able to have sex without first consuming alcohol.

What makes this situation a great example of the Zeitgeist:

More than two years after the incident, even Melanie’s gender has changed. When 16 months later she reported what happened on the train tracks, Melanie had been taking male hormones for 12 weeks; she had legally changed her name, adopting a male identity. Her voice dropped; she shaved her facial hair. The woman referred to in this account as Melanie now hopes to surgically alter her gender in the future, and lives and dresses as a man.

(Thanks to German for letting me know about this article.)

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4 Comments

  1. Jackie

    January 23, 2017 @ 1:25 pm

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    If you do it with someone who later changes her gender, does that make you gay in retrospect?

    Au contraire, posing as an “ally” is a great way to meet chicks for beta males who don’t have much of a shot otherwise. The problem is that the females tend to be as crazy as loons and have been taught that their consent can be revoked “at any time” – even months after the event.

  2. Dingus

    January 23, 2017 @ 8:23 pm

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    The man referred to as Melanie sounds like a rational and emotionally balanced individual.

  3. GermanL

    January 24, 2017 @ 7:52 pm

    3

    You are now entering the Twilight Zone! (cue the music)

    If this guy, after all that training and awareness, gets into trouble what hope is there for the rest of us schmucks?

    From the article regarding the plaintiff’s sex change:
    “I suppose transitioning was one of the driving elements for why I reported, because I felt uncomfortable using the men’s restrooms in my residential college, for fear that I would encounter him.”

    Seriously this could be a script for an episode of a TV series thriller.

  4. Jackie

    January 25, 2017 @ 6:03 pm

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    College tribunals can’t imprison you, but they can throw you out of the school and ban you from the campus. How many millions of women throughout history have said of their exes , “I never want to see his face again!” ? Thru the magic of Title IX, this is now within the realm of possibility. The modern state is like a magic fairy that is able to fulfill so many of our formerly impossible wishes – turn women who felt like men inside into “men” (and vice versa), make it possible to be supported by your (ex)spouse without having to cook and provide marital services to him, etc.

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