On Being Remiss

A year ago, you’d rarely find me not blogging on a weekday (I always took weekends off). A few years ago you’d NEVER find me missing a day. But I’m starting to neglect my little space on the world-wide interweb.

It’s not laziness because I’ve still got the alotted time each day to post something. I think the problem is that I can’t think of what to write. I’m not cocky enough to say I have writer’s block (in no way would I consider myself a writer).

Perhaps I’m just lacking inspiration. Or there isn’t enough going on in my life to warranty writing? But that never stopped me before. I would just ramble about anything.

Then again, that’s exactly what I’m doing right now…rambling. So maybe nothing has changed (except the decrease of my hairline and the increase in my waistline.

 

 *Hoping it would inspire me, the photo above was one I took about the time I started this blog 5 years ago.

 

The Great Cape Escape

Easter is one of those holidays I just don’t get. Granted, I’m not religious…at all…but I still get excited for Christmas, even excitedly playing Christmas music beginning in late October. And I love Memorial Day since it signals the beginning of summer.

But Easter doesn’t make sense to me. All other holidays are either on a specific date (Christmas=December 25, Independence Day=July 4), or follow a understandable scheduling (Labor Day=1st Monday of September, Memorial Day=last Monday in May). But Easter seems to show up whenever the hell it wants to. Sometimes it’s March, sometimes it’s a month later in April.

And I never unerstand why (most) stores aren’t open, mostly because I don’t understand the holiday itself. Somebody this year refered to it as Zombie Jesus Day. I like that.

Anyway, Easter means more to my parents than it does to me (despite them having not stepped foot in a church in two decades). So, Randy and I headed down Saturday afternoon to spend Easter Sunday with them. We played cards, we played RummiKub, we eate lots of food. And on Saturday night Randy and I headed to my hometown gay bar. Our friends, Zach, Jeff, and Chris were in Plymouth visiting their family so they drove to the Cape to join us.

It was actually quite fun. And surprisingly integrated (something you don’t see much of in Boston). Yeah, it was mostly white, but I saw a black guy, an Asian guy, a presumably transgender American Indian guy, a Brazilian guy, old guys, twinks, and a handful of women. And when you consider that there couldn’t have been more than 25-30 people in the entire place, that’s pretty impressive!

Our Third Date

I’m guessing that you’ve all read on my blog that I’ve been dating somebody. Well, last night was our third date and I think we both had a great time.

Our first date was about two and a half years ago. We went to see Shortbus at the Kendall Square Cinema. Our second date happened maybe 6 months to a year later when we ate at an Italian restaurant in Teele Square. And last night was our most recent date – we saw MILK at the Capitol Theatre in Arlington (I know, I know, we’re probably the last two people to see the movie).

It’s pretty sad that Randy and I have been together for over two and a half years but have only been on three dates. Since the beginning, we would simply either go to each other’s home when we got together. In fact, that night at the Italian restaurant was the first time we’d eaten out alone together after dating all that time.

And now that we’ve lived together for nearly a year and a half, it seems the only time we do eat in restaurants alone is when we travel. I suppose we’ve technically been on more dates then since we travel so much…but I’m talking local dating in the traditional sense.

Anyway, we had a fun time and both agree we need to do stuff like that more often. Though, it can make for a fun story to say that we moved in together after only two dates.

I Am The Walrus

All I had was a single glass of wine last night after dinner. Seriously! And it wasn’t even close to bed time. Yet I still had the most peculiar dream.

For some inexplicable reason, I was living with my brother. Instead of the house being in western Massachusetts, it was my Aunt and Uncle’s place down the street from where I was raised on Cape Cod.

One night, while sleeping in the living room, I got up to get some water from the kitchen. I’d forgotten that they had a gate blocking the entrance to the kitchen to keep their pet walrus in there at night.

Yes, pet walrus.

Needless to say, the walrus was just as startled of me as I was of it. It began yelping (I’ve never heard a walrus in real life, but in my dream it sounded somewhat like a seal) and the whole scene woke every body up.

Now, during the day, they let the walrus free to roam around the house and it gets along splendidly with my niece and nephew. But it held a grudge with me, apparently, for startling it so now it was constantly provoking me and chasing me.

Later in the dream, there was a party taking place and the walrus was comfortably lounging in the dining room enjoying the attention of all the guests. But then I’d walk in and it would freak out and start chasing me.

I think I need to lay off the wine.

Rome…If You Want To, Roam Around the World!

Well, our next big trip is already planned. Since Randy’s company is closing their office for a week in April and a week in May, we decided to take advantage fo the forced time off and do something. I did a bit of research over the weekend and then Randy booked our tickets last night. I couldn’t believe the deal we got on airfare. I’ve flown to Europe before (years ago…pre-economic breakdown) for $1,000 a ticket. This time we got ALL of our flights (Boston to Rome, Rome to Paris, Paris to Boston) for only $575 total! We nearly spent that much going from Boston to Miami a few months ago.

The plan is to go to Rome for 5 nights/6 days, then fly to Paris for 4 nights/5 days. WOO HOO! So if anybody has pointers about things to do, places to see in Rome, holler!

In other good news, Randy returned from his wine tasting trip to California this morning. I had already left for work by the time he arrived, but I suspect he filled the two empty cases he flew out there with with wine.

Drink up!

…and Ciao! (I better brush up on my Italian).

Is There a Lemon Law for iPods?

For Christmas, I gave Randy an iTouch. He then sold my parents his year-or-so old 30g iPod for a fair price. Now, the reason Randy upgraded to the iTouch was not because there were issues with the iPod…he did it because, like most men, he needs the newest and latest techno-gadget. At the time, that would have been the iTouch (I’m sure by his birthday in August he’ll be upgrading yet again).

Anyway, the iPod functioned fine. He used it at the gym at least 2-3 times per week plus whenever we traveled and it never failed him.

Well, my parents owned the iPod for only a few weeks when they started complaining that the battery seemed to die quickly. I told them that I’m sure it was just them not shutting it off properly and leaving it running all the time by accident. I mean, they’re the kind of people who still couldn’t manage to set recordings on the VCR by the time VCR’s became obsolete. I must admit, I’m not much better…but that’s beside the point.

So Randy and I went down to visit a month or so ago and checked out the iPod. Lo and behold, my parents were right. For some reason, they’ll leave it in the charger overnight but when they wake up and disconnect the iPod from the charger, it will go from full power to empty within 30 seconds.

What happened to cause this issue is beyond me. But Randy knew the solution: he purchased a new battery. Last weekend when I was down there I brought the iPod back with me. I was home for all of 10 minutes when Randy had already opened up the iPod and replaced the battery. We tested it out over the next two days and it seemed to hold the charge.

Now it’s in the mail and on its way back to its rightful owners (who apparently use the iPod much more than I ever thought they would).

The funny thing was while I was down there last weekend, my mom mentioned that my father has always refused to buy a used car (or appliance…anything) because he felt he’d just inheriting the previous owners problems (with no warranty). D’oh! Well, hopefully Randy’s customer service proved them wrong. I mean, they may be getting a used iTouch in August.

I’m Glad We Waited

Last night Randy and I watched the movie, “The Ruins”, that we’d recorded on the DVR. I had no clue what it was about a year or so ago when Randy was reading the book, and I had no clue what it was last night when I noticed Randy had recorded it on the DVR.

And I can honestly say now that I’m happy as hell that he didn’t show me the movie prior to our trip to Mexico last month. Basically, some college kids go on spring break in Mexico. They decide to explore some ruins on their last day (you know, get a bit of culture after a week on the beach). They decide to go to these “secret” ruins that are off the map, but supposedly really cool.

They arrive at a Mayan pyramid, get surrounded by some native people (who don’t speak English or Spanish), and are forced to climb the pyramid. And then it gets strange. Now, I won’t give the movie away or anything but it’s a horror flick so you do the math.

It had it’s creepy moments toward the beginning, but the resulting cause of all of the horror ended up being a bit to hokey for me. I imagine reading it in a book would come off as scarier than actually seeing the computer-generated effects on screen.

There were some generally creepy moments, and there were some bloody moments, particularly when one of the college kids appears to go insane and starts slicing up her body to save herself (toward the end, this particular one reminded me of Nancy Spungen of Sid and Nancy fame; unkempt blonde hair, dirty under pants and tank, bloody).

Well, I’ll say it again…I’m glad Randy showed me this film today…AFTER we did our own little trip to some Mayan ruins earlier this month. I’m mature enough to realize that what happened in the movie wouldn’t happen to us in real life, but the isolation of the area surrounding the ruins can be creepy. Most visitors do a day trip and leave by 7PM. The VERY few that stay behind (like us) are literally in the jungle. Our hotel room had no windows in the bathroom (just screens) and the front door to our motel room was a hollow door – the kind you’d find on a closet in a cheap home remodel. Kate Moss sneezing could have cause the door to push open.

So, thanks, Randy, for waiting until after the trip to show me this movie. Maybe he learned his lesson after making me watch the first episode(s) of “Lost” the day before we flew to Europe last year? Real smart to make me watch vivid depictions of a plane crash the night before a flight, Randy!

She Doesn’t Solve Everything

About a year ago Randy and I started using a maid. Despite the fact that Randy’s job no longer had him traveling and despite the fact that my job gets me home at a reasonable hour each day, we still weren’t managing to clean the place as regularly as we should. And when it came time to clean, the place was pretty bad because we’d put it off for so long.

Now Marcia comes once every two weeks and does a kick-ass job. The dust bunnies are gone, the crumbs in the toaster are gone, the stove top sparkles, and I can enjoy my workday evenings of DVR catch-up and porn.

But now it seems Randy and I have found a new thing with which to procrastinate: laundry. Normally I seem to do the laundry (I’m not sure how that came about, but such is life). About a week and a half ago, though, Randy through in a couple of loads. The bulk of that laundry (until last night) remained either hanging to dry in the basement or in the dryer.

I didn’t really notice it until the middle of this week when I couldn’t find any socks.

It’s gotten so bad that, for example, I was doing laundry last night (two loads) and there was still stuff remaining. So later in the evening Randy decided to put another load into the washer….and we decided to just leave it there until morning (mildew be damned) because I was already in bed and Randy didn’t feel like going down to do it.

Why? Why are we so lazy? I mean, we no longer have to worry about cleaning the house. We had very simple meals last night that didn’t warrant much cooking time or the cleaning of many dishes. I know chores aren’t fun…but come on! Hell, I plan on taking some of the stuff that was washed and bringing it down to my parent’s this weekend so my mother can iron it (she actually says she enjoys ironing…and for the record the reason for my visit is not to have her iron).

It’s so strange because I can be so motivated about other things (trip planning, the house search). Maybe that’s the problem…maybe I become so ambitious with other things that it drains me for doing others?

On the plus side, I’ve done Wii Fit three times this week plus went to the gym once. I guess that’s something. 

Wait! Don’t Tell Me!

Recently I became addicted to RuPaul’s Drag Race on LoGo. It’s a combination of Project Runway (they create their own fashions) and America’s Next Top Model (they participate in photo shoots and runway scenes). However, the big catch is that the contestants are drag queens.

And it’s wonderful.

I mean, these gals have talent. Them bitches on Project Runway just have to design clothes. They don’t then model them. And America’s Next Top Model contestants just do modeling, but they don’t create their outfits. And on top of that RuPaul’s Drag Race contestants are having to create an alternate persona…a whole new person (and personality). It’s quite the transformation.

The season finale (and there better be more seasons) was on Monday night. I haven’t watched it yet because I haven’t had a chance…but I can’t wait to see who won. I hope it’s Nina Flowers. I suspect it’s going to be a toss-up between her and Bebe…but while Bebe comes off to me as a very qualified typical drag queen, Nina Flowers has a personality that shines through with a unique punk/rebellious energy. Whereas Bebe always looked pretty, Nina was pretty and, like a chameleon, adapted to all of the challenges with a completely new look.

So, don’t tell me who won. I’m watching the finale tonight.

Our House, is a Very, Very, Very Fine House

How is it Monday already?

We had a near identical weekend as the previous one: game night on Friday, friends/dinner and more games on Saturday, the house hunting and the gym on Sunday.

This time around we intended to scope out 4 or 5 open houses I found online. But this being the first official weekend in spring, we stumbled upon two additional open houses that we checked out just for the hell of it. One was a decently priced unit in a crappy location with small rooms, the other was an oversized mess of a place with 1970’s blue bathroom tiles and an all-white kitchen (appliances, walls, cabinets, counter tops). The broker kept saying that it was a “cool, European minimalist” look. What it really was was a century old house with an ill-concieved cheap-ass remodel.

However, then we found “the” place. I use “the” in parenthesis because this property made Randy and me realize that the ideal home may not exist for us. We both knew that we’d have different tastes in things, and that we’d have different priorities in what we need in a place. But I was surprised at Randy’s lack of love for the place we saw on Sunday (considering how fond I was of it).

It was about a half mile from Porter Square, about an 8 minute walk (I could even walk to work, too). It was newer constrution (1989) and was one unit in a cute 3-townhouse complex. It was larger than we’d need, with a foyer, living room, kitchen, dining room, and laundry closet on the first floor, two bedrooms and a bathroom on the second floor, and a master bedroom suite on the top floor with 3 walk-in closets, a bathroom with skylights, and a private deck with views of the entire Boston skyline (literally, from the waterfront all the way past the Back Bay).

There was also a full basement (dry…and easily adaptable to becoming another room since it had windows). There were two reserved parking spots plus two guest spots. In total, it was 2,000 square feet of living space (3,000 if you include the basement).

What I loved about it was that all of the rooms were large and “normal” shaped. Unlike our current place where the bedrooms are cramped and difficult to maneuvre in, or our living room where you have to rearraange all the furniture just to play Wii, this place had decent sized rooms. Come to think of it, this place really only had 1 more room than what we have now (excluding the 2 extra bathrooms). It’s just that the rooms were more functional.

It also met another of Randy’s pre-requisites…outdoor grill space. So as we walked all around the property inspecting the bathrooms and closets and views, all I could think was “I love it, I love it, I love it”! All it needed was a coat of paint to make the rooms jump out at you a bit more and perhaps a little kitchen cabinet work. Still, even before doing those things, the place was in move-in condition as long as you didn’t mind a few dated light fixtures.

And then Randy and I are started discussing it and he saw the property in a completely different light: Although there was a small grassy piece of land in front of the townhouse (probably 16 ft. x 10 ft.), Randy didn’t like that it didn’t have a yard. He also didn’t like that the rooms were square or rectangle (prefering bays and such instead). Finally, he didn’t like that it lacked “charm” (which he defined as details and ornamentation).

It’s funny, in my mind (perhaps as a result of my architecture/design background) I was seeing it as a blank slate which is even better than a place alerady with charm. Having no ornamentation would allow us to personalize it and do with it what we want. It wouldn’t limit us (by having pre-existing obstacles, like the decorative columns on some walls in our current place). Plus, we would always add trim and such and provide detail of our choosing…or, as Paula Abdul would say, we’d make it our own!

Anyway, the whole process frustrated both of us (possibly me more than him). I mean, I like charm. I’ve lived in New England all of my life and for most of those years I’ve lived in older homes with charm. And what I associate with charm are thin walls, poor insulation, squeaky floors, small rooms, narrow doorways, sloped floors, and an inconvenient layout of the rooms (not coincidentally, all issuse we have in our current place…minus the sloped floors). Yeah, the moulding looked nice, but it usually had already been painted over so many times that the detail had been blurred anyway.

Meanwhile, Randy came from a part of the country where the housing stock was all created around the same time (mid 20th century) so it’s all boxy and unornamented.

I know there’s a compromise out there somewhere. Perhaps a newer building with spacious rooms and old-school detail. Apparently with a usable yard, a back deck for grilling, walking distance to the subway, city views, helipad on the roof, underground cave network, and bowling alley.