Food and Cheer

After work last night Randy and I went to my friend, Jen’s, place for dinner. She and her boyfriend of nearly 18 months (who I just met last night) moved in to this place together a few months ago. It’s a lovely place – eerily similar to Randy’s and mine. Both houses are yellow, both houses are the same two-family style with near identical room lay-outs (the kitchen, living room, dining and two bedrooms are in identical places. The only difference is the bathroom in Randy’s is where Jen’s pantry is. Oh, Jen’s back yard is bigger (though, we have a 2 car garage taking up quite a bit of space).

Anyway, Jen prepared a lovely chicken/broccoli/ziti (my favorite) and good conversation was had all around.

Stuffed, we came home watched the news until the weather came on, and went to bed.

Oh, and on a completely unrelated rant…what’s up with all of the door-to-door solicitors this past summer? I swear, I’ve lived all over Boston (Fenway, South End, Back Bay, Downtown, West End, North End), plus Brookline, Salem, Newburyport, and San Francisco, and not once have I ever had somebody anonymously ring my doorbell trying to sell me something, convert me to a new religion, or change political affiliations. Not once!

Yet in this summer alone I’ve probably had at least two people per week ring the door bell. A rival cable company has come numerous times. We’ve had Mormons pay a visit or two (I blame Romney – I never saw them anywhere in the state until he became governor…nowI saw them on the subway and in Harvard Square all the time). Oh, and the Jehovah’s Witnesses have paid us a few visits. And over the past month or two, it’s been a constant attack from democrats (from local candidates to the actual DNC).

Randy is never here for it since they seem to come between 5PM – 7PM and he is always at work at that time. My friend, Deano, can attest to this because I think every Scrabble game we’ve played since late July has been interrupted by the door bell. It’s gotten so bad that I don’t even answer the door anymore.

No wonder Bostonian’s have a reputation for being cold and unfriendly.

 

Two Years and Counting

Randy and I are now officially in the third year of our relationship. To celebrate, we went out to dinner last night at 33 Restaurant and Lounge in Boston. He had been there once before, but this was my first time. The space was quite cool. Located on a one-block long side street (what my friend Chris would refer to as an alley), it had exposed brick (complete with old arches and other details) and a very cool lighting scheme. In the center of the space was a stairwell that went down to a lower level, but the staircase morphed into the bar on the main level using a funky illuminated wall/railing structure.

The food was decent (nothing stellar), but being a Tuesday night the place wasn’t too crowded so we had a nice private table by a window. After dinner, Randy suggested we pop into Club Cafe (nearby gay bar), but by the time we stood up and felt how full we are, he suggested heading home instead.

Considering that by that time it had begun to rain a bit, I was perfectly fine heading home, too.

And that was our night…a far cry from our actual first date two years ago: we met at my place, had lunch at Pizzeria Regina, then walked along the North End waterfront. He then left to go see a movie with friends, and I ended up going on another date with somebody else that evening. Shhhh – don’t tell!

I can honestly say, though, that neither of us went out on a second date last night. This time it was all about us.

 

*Oh, and the photo above was the first ever photo of us together…taken by a stranger at Mount Auburn Cemetery almost a month after we met.

Free Bird

I tried calling my mom at the hospital yesterday but there was no answer. I suspected she was participating in the stress test at that time. But I was wrong – she was actually home already!

Apparently, her heart doctor and primary care doctor disagreed on when she should have the stress test (should it be while she has the pneumonia or after it’s cleared out). The heart doctor won and said that if they test her when the pneumonia is gone, they’ll have a better idea of how she is physically on a normal basis (so they an address is appropriately). Testing her now wouldn’t give them that answer since the pneumonia is preventing her lungs from functioning properly.

So, she’s home, she’s relieved, and she’s having my dad care for her and Dusty (the Shih Tzu) giving more love than she needs.

And for me, today is my anniversary with Randy. Two years! It seems like just yesterday. Well, it actually doesn’t. It actually feels like we’ve been together forever. I don’t say that in a bad way. Everything is so stable/comfortable that it just seems like I’ve known him for a much longer time.

To celebrate, we’re planning on a romantic little dinner at 33, in the Back Bay. Yay us!

Doing Well

My mom appears to be doing remarkably well in the hospital.  I went down Friday night half-expecting to see a sickly woman…but she was already chatting with my aunt and uncle who were visiting. Yeah, she would occasionally get winded while talking a lot, but overall she was laughing, smiling, and 100% coherent.

I visited her again on Saturday and she seemed even slightly better.  In fact, she was hoping to come home that day. Alas, the doctor had other plans and scheduled her for a heart stress test today.  That dropped her mood a bit (understandably) and she didn’t seem as good on Sunday.  She gets very winded very easily. Even just getting out of bed and going to the bathroom left her gasping for air (pnemonia, along with early emphysema). But the hope is for her to return home tomorrow and take it easy from there.

Randy came down on Saturday and joined me for two trips to the hospital. And I eagerly awaited Tropical Storm Hanna on Saturday night but was left disappointed. Around 11PM it started getting quite windy (you could hear it through the windows and even the fireplace). I took the dog out for a walk and she was petrified as she heard the wind howling and twigs falling from trees and hitting the cars. However, the peak of the storm was supposed to be around 2AM and by that point it had already seemed to die down. Oh well.

After visiting my mother at the hospital on Sunday, Randy and I headed to Sandy Neck Beach. I fear that Randy will never go to a Provincetown beach again. The waves were bigger (partially because of Hanna, and partically because Sandy Neck always seems to get bigger waves). Randy wants to return and boogie board. Meanwhile, I like the eye candy up in Ptown. Perhaps we’ll compromise next summer.

Isn’t that what relationships are all about?

Appreciating the Scooter

Yep, you heard it right…today I realize how thankful I am for the scooter. I had to take public transit in to work this morning since I’m going straight to the train station after work to visit my mother at the hospital on the Cape.

Taking public transit to work involves walking 10 minutes or so, waiting for a bus, taking the bus for 5-7 minutes, transfering to the subway, going two stops, then walking 7-10 minutes.

The bus and train arrived with no delays. In fact, everything about the trip was ideal (in terms of timing). However, the walking! It’s September so I’m ready for 50 degrees days already. But the mid-70’s temperatures and humidity resulted in me arriving at work with my off-white shirt nearly transparent because it was so saturated from sweat.

Nasty!

I’m now shirtless in my office with my shirt on the air-conditioning vent to dry off (yes, I have a private office).

Autumn can’t come soon enough.

Good Times/Bad Times

There was a time in the not so distant past where I was certain that bad things always followed good things. For example, I started to do a bit of travel, then my 10-year relationship ended. I began a new relationship, and then a close friend died of cancer. I did some more travel, and then my niece died. I got a promotion, and then my mother was hospitalized.

And it’s happened again. I just got back from a great weekend in Toronto and within 24 hours my mother is hospitalized with pneumonia, a bladder infection, and some heart troubles (something about irregular beating and enzymes). 

Of course, my parents never called me to tell me she was sick. I instant messaged with them on Tuesday when I got back from Canada and my Dad said my mother was tired from babysitting my niece and nephew over the previous 5 days. I did the same thing yesterday morning, but he didn’t respond. I finally called last night and my dad said they called 9-1-1 about 12 hours earlier and that she was admitted to Cape Cod Hospital.

I called my  mother last night around 7:30PM and she sounded okay (coughing a bit, but still maintained a bit of a sense of humor). She said she wasn’t exactly sure what was going on (the actual diagnosis) but she felt extremely weak and she gets dizzy if she sits up.

I’m planning on heading down there tomorrow. If she’s still in the hospital I’ll visit with her there and help my Dad around the house afterwards.  If she’s home from the hospital, I’ll help them both around the house.

Sigh…welcome home!

 

Related to the Post Below…

I’ve added the photos from our trip to my online photo albums. You’ll see Toronto photos in “Karl’s International Travels” and you’ll find our recent Provincetown and Acadia National Park photos in “Karl’s Domestic Travel’s.”

Enjoy!

Around the World in Four Days

It had been well over a decade since I last visited Toronto. That time, I arrived in the city with my friend, Melody, in the middle of a whirlwind road trip that had us stopping off in the Adirondacks, Montreal, the Thousand Islands, Toronto, Niagara Falls, and Howes Caverns. Consequently, we only had 24 hours or less in the city before venturing off to our next destination.

This time around, I was able to spend four straight days in the city. I think that’s the perfect amount of time to explore everything the city has to offer. We arrived early on Friday morning and immediately headed out to explore Queen Street West and West Queen West (a formerly derelect neighborhood even further away from downtown). It’s a rather funky area with numerous art galleries and shops. Closer to downtown (still on Queen Street) we explored the new and old city halls (side by side….one modern, one Richarsonian Romanesque).

That night, we explored the Gay Village, centered around Church and Wellesley.

The next morning, we intended to head toward Casa Loma (a castle built by an eccentric rich man nearly 100 years ago). On the way there, we stopped into Queen’s Park before realizing that in front of us was the Ontario Parliament Building. We walked in and took a tour, then hopped back on the subway and headed up to the castle.

Casa Loma is gorgeous. Perched on a hill (a rarity in flat Toronto) the castle has gorgeous gardens and unlike the castles I’ve toured in Europe (or even in the states) this one lets you explore nearly every room. It’s the most comprehensive castle tour I’ve ever seen.

We left Casa Loma and headed south again to Kensington Market…claimed to be the largest public market in North America. It was block after block of cheap crap (tshirts, meats, produce, knick-knacks, etc…). It’s right next to Chinatown and Koreatown and mobbed with people. We ended up eating at a Hungarian Thai restaurant. Yep, you heard that right: it was called the Hung(a)ry Thai…I had wiener schnitzel and Randy had a green curry dish. YUM!

We then hopped on the subway and headed to the Bloor/Yorkville area. This is their version of Boston’s Newbury Street or NYC’s Fifth Avenue, except it also houses Canada’s largest museum: The Royal Ontario Museum. The main drag is very urban, but just one block back you’ll find narrow streets with even more shops and nice homes.

We read that the Little Italy area was having a fair that evening (similar to Boston’s North End feasts) so we headed over there for dinner. The streets were mobbed with people and performers. Ironically, we ate at a Thai restaurant (though I technicaly had Vietnamese food).

On Sunday, we headed out to the Distillery (their version of Boston’s Faneuil hall or San Francisco Ghiardelli Square. Amongst the old buildings are some new condo towers and lofts being constructed. One had a fascinating pinpoint of a corner (I can’t imagine how a tenant would vacuum or sweep at that wall). The area was hosting an arts fair and produce market, too.

We then walked down to Queen’s Quay and took in the skyline view from the harborfront. For even better photos, we went to the top-floor observation deck of the Westin Harbour Castle Hotel.  It was from here that you can see how tall their buildings really are in that city. I think Boston may have more hi-rises, but at 25-40 floors tall, they’re nearly half the height of Toronto’s 50-70 story buildings.

After an afternoon break, we headed over to Cabbagetown (our favorite neighborhood) and then to the Necropolis: Toronto’s oldest cemetery. We hopped on the trolley and then headed out further to their 2nd Chinatown (the city apparently has five of them) and then to Little India, where Randy and I enjoyed a samosa.

That night, we lazily headed into the Gay Village again for an Italian dinner.

That brings us to Monday (Labor Day is also a holiday for Canadians). We started off the day taking the Queen Street trolley as far west as possible to find a store that sold art from a painter that interested Randy. After nearly an hour (trains were irregular because of a Labor Day Parade, and then one train car became disabled) we arrived at the location. It wasn’t an art gallery: it was a convenience store.

Seriously! We traveled half way across the city (almost to Mississauga) to the only neighborhood we actually felt unsafe in, only to find a convenience store. After a few minutes, I was able to laugh. But things did get testy for a brief while as we were BOTH rather frustrated.

We got out of that “hood” as fast as possible and took the Queen Street trolley completely to the other side of the city: east (another hour or so ride). This time, we arrived at a neighborhood called The Beaches. We walked around the shops, had lunch at a Vietnamese restaurant, then headed down to the beach. Lake Ontario is so vast that it actually feels like you’re at an ocean beach in New England. This is the one area of the city where the housing stock was built differently (less brick, more clapboard and shingle). We laid out under some trees for an hour or so then headed back to the hotel for a rest.

We ended the trip by taking the subway to Greektown for dinner.

I’m so thrilled I actually got to see the real Toronto this time around. It’s the most ethnically diverse North American city I’ve ever visited. Yeah, most large cities on this continent have a Chinatown and Little Italy (North End). Some have pockets of other ethnicities (San Francisco has JapanTown, midwestern states have German and Polish)…but this one city has countless distinct neighborhoods offering markets and clothes and restaurants: there are 5 Chinatowns, plus KoreaTown, 2 Little Italy’s, Cabbagetown (Irish), Greektown, Little India, a gay neighborhood, even a Polish area (that we didn’t visit). And even in each of those neighborhoods we’d find restaurants of various ethnicities.

It really did feel like I was exploring multiple different countries instead of just one.

Having Some Work Done

No, not plastic surgery (though, a bit of lipo could be helpful at this stage), but work around the house. Randy is having all of the exterior doors replaced. The current ones are original to the house (built in the 1920’s, I believe) and are old, cracked, and drafty.

In addition, he had new basement steps put in and is having the mahogany deck sanded and re-stained. Work began on Monday and already four of the 5 doors have been installed (though, not finished). It’s looking good.

And we’re off to Toronto in the morning (7AM flight…ugh). It’s just for the long holiday weekend. We’ll fly back on Tuesday morning and go straight to work. I’ve not been to Toronto in over a decade so it should be fun. I’m hoping to avoid the CN Tower (been there, done that) and to take advantage of all of the neighborhoods. There’s also an arts fair happening that I suspect Randy will enjoy. OOH – and I wanna’ go to the castle (Casa Loma).

Finally, a brief moment of politics. I heard most of Bill Clinton’s speech last night at the Democratic National Convention and I was impressed. I loved his comment about “leading through the power of example, versus leading through the example of power” (as has been the case for the past 8 years).

YAY – I’m Not Alone!

Yesterday was Randy’s birthday so I’m no longer the only one in our group of friends who is 37! WOO HOO!

To celebrate, we got together with some friends and had dinner at Elephant Walk in Cambridge. It’s a Cambodian/French restaurant and since they extended their Restaurant Week menu for a few extra weeks, we got to take advantage of their 4-course fixed price menu.

It was all quite good (as was the company).

I got Randy some pathetic gifts, but he seemed happy with them. This time, he’s only exchanging two items (but I don’t blame him). Those items were two automatic card shufflers. We play so many games of cards that it seemed like a practical gift at the time. However, after testing it out last night, we realized that it takes longer to shuffle using the shuffler than it would by hand.

To use the gadget, you have to separate the cards into two stacks, place each stack on the tray evenly (if they aren’t lined up right, they jam), push the shuffle button, pull out the plastic tray (where the shuffled cards are located), pull out the cards, then rinse and repeat.

By the time you go about doing just one shuffle (which is nowhere near enough) you could have shuffled 5 or 6 times by hand. Plus, we often play agame that requires 6 decks of cards. We’d be spending half the night loading and unloading the damn shuffler.

Oh well. It’s the thought that counts, right?

Right?