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Wedding Etiquette

3rd January 2008

Wedding Etiquette

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T thinks I’m going to be a terror between now and the wedding. This may be in part because last night, I forced him to take me to Office Depot to pick up clear mailing labels for our Save the Date cards, which I insisted had to be done that very day (our cards had arrived earlier that day) even though our wedding is still over nine months away, almost everyone knows the date already anyways, and we probably won’t actually mail them until sometime next week when we finish getting all the addresses we need.

He then witnessed me frantically searching the store to find matching clear return address labels, only to dejectedly settle for white ones because the clear ones only came in expensive packs of 2,000 – way more than we need for our small wedding!

What he doesn’t see however is all the insanity I’m actually saving him from! There’s a big old scary world of wedding etiquette and protocol out there to which T is comfortably oblivious thanks to me (i.e., I just don’t tell him about it). I can only hope most of our guests are equally oblivious because I’m already trampling willy nilly over a lot of the old rules.

If you’re a stickler for wedding etiquette however, I apologize in advance for using printed address labels instead of calligraphy, dropping your courtesy titles, whether it be “Mr.,” “Mrs.,” “Ms.” or other, daring to include both our names on the (white! grrr) return address labels, thereby acknowledging that we’re living together before marriage, and a million other offenses I’ll undoubtedly commit between now and the wedding! =)

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  1. 1 On January 4th, 2008, EC said:

    While we’re on the topic of wedding etiquette, this is what Bob Morris has to say about “Save the Date” cards:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2007/02/11/fashion/11age.html

    Maybe you can save yourself the trouble, and just send out the traditional invites?

    posted on January 4th, 2008 at 12:37 am

  2. 2 On January 4th, 2008, Y. said:

    Too late – they’re here and will be on there way shortly!

    We really wanted to give people advanced notice since the wedding will be on a Friday evening and people (if they want to and/or can attend) may have to take some time off work. We’re keeping the wedding pretty small and limited to family and close friends so hopefully no one will be dreading it too much! =)

    posted on January 4th, 2008 at 11:29 am

  3. 3 On January 11th, 2008, Camille said:

    The finer points of etiquette are a huge pain. If it’s any consolation, know that according to (I think) Miss Manners, pointing out or in any way noting someone else’s bad manners is actually even worse manners, so no one can ever mention it to you if you do anything wrong. Which I’m sure you won’t. And I’m also sure no one will mind if you do. 🙂

    posted on January 11th, 2008 at 1:03 pm

  4. 4 On January 29th, 2008, ec said:

    I just wanted to add that I think your save the date cards are very cute. Is red your theme color for the wedding?

    posted on January 29th, 2008 at 2:51 pm

  5. 5 On January 30th, 2008, Y. said:

    Thanks! They were only $35 for a hundred!! (Shh. Don’t tell anyone.) =)

    Yes, red’s the theme color at the moment. I may change my mind, but I figure it’s traditional, easy, and a good luck color in many Asian cultures.

    posted on January 30th, 2008 at 6:06 pm