Upon being accepted into Harvard, I befriended almost fifty other pre-frosh via social media. These were people that I had never met before, but with whom I had found something in common. We would talk about our senior years, all the cool things we were looking forward to at Harvard, and how stressed we were about going to college and leaving our families. As we became closer, much of the conversation shifted towards jokes, personal conversations, political discussions (especially through the 2016 Primary cycle), and, of course, memes.
Again, these were people I had never met before. And yet, I was chatting with these people more often than I was with my own friends.
These are people who I thought could be my closest friends, and yet, now that I’m actually here, I talk to none of them. Sure, if I see them I’ll say hi, but they’re nothing more than acquaintances.
The fact is that people are very different online and offline. Through social media, people want to always build a facade of happiness. To paraphrase Hillary Clinton, people have “both private and public positions” on topics, where they only display what they want their friends to see on social media with everything from photoshopped, edited, and filtered photos or Snapchat Stories showing them.
This leads to a rift. People often try to Google or Facebook-search new people that they have met, attempting to garner as much information about their new acquaintance as they can. Heck, the whole point of Facebook is to see what your friends are up to all the time. This means that followers of user accounts can develop an impression of the user that is based only on what the user allows their followers to see, creating a fake persona. Many judgements can be made by looking through the list of “likes” that users have (sorry, Rachel), but these are not necessarily correct. It’s hard to be completely authentic online because people can’t see you for who you are. You self-select and upload everything yourself, removing any context from the situation.