I Should Have Known Better

Remember a week or so ago when I blogged about how whenever I do fun things/have fun disaster subsequently strikes the people around me? After that posting, I received loads of emails and phone calls from people telling me I’m over-reacting.

Well, here’s additional proof.

As I blogged about yesterday and the day before, I had a fabulous weekend. A great time from beginning to end and probably one of the best weekends I’ve had in ages. Of course, I should have know where that would lead.

On Monday I heard from my Mom. First she tells me that my sister-in-law’s grandfather died on Sunday. This is the same sister-in-law who’s daughter (my niece) died in September and who was also diagnosed herself with the same disease and is now confined to a wheelchair. Ugh. I didn’t know her grandfather very well…but did see him frequently during family gatherings (holidays, weddings, birthdays).

But it gets worse. Then my Mom tells me that on Monday, my aunt died. She’d been in a nursing home for years and put up a long fight with various medical issues.

I’ve come to the conclusion that my enjoyment comes at other people’s expense – plain and simple. I’m cursed. The more fun I have, the more carnage that follows. I guess the safest things for all of my friends and family is to hang around with me at all times. Otherwise, it’s too risky.


  1. Comment by Lise on November 15, 2005 10:56 am

    Karl, I strenuously hope you’re not serious about your conclusion. Though I love your solution. But really, two elderly people died and you connect it to your enjoying a weekend? First of all, as you get older family & friends a generation or two before you WILL start dropping out. Secondly, please don’t use that as an excuse to not pursue your new life as the gallivanting gay boy!

  2. Comment by Brad on November 15, 2005 12:18 pm

    Short and simple. I agree with Lise. This is going to start happening more and more and it’s just coincidence. NOW . . . if it were people who were close to you, I might be more suspect, but while I feel for you and your family (and will definitely keep you in my thoughts), it sounds as if this may be a blessing for your aunt (please send my condolences to your Mother)and I would imagine that your sis-in-law’s grandfather may have been old enough that these things happen. YOU are not jinxed!

  3. Comment by JC on November 15, 2005 1:10 pm

    You are not cursed. Things happen that we don’t understand, and it’s hard, but you just have to accept them. Guilt, when it’s unwarranted, is just useless.

  4. Comment by karyn on November 15, 2005 3:50 pm

    Right, you’ve cottoned on to the plot of the universe. Now immediately cease all fun activity and kindly limit your social interaction to the WILDLY necessary appointments with a pyschiatrist.

    The universe is not a giant arrow pointed at your bullseye of a head, Karl. Shit happens. Even to the overachievers among us. This is not to take away from very real losses, but you really can’t just chalk it up to being connected to what you do in life. (Unless you actually kill someone.)

    Deep breath in, blow it out. Lather, rinse, repeat. 🙂

  5. Comment by chrispy on November 15, 2005 5:01 pm

    take yourself out of the “Karl + Fun = random people dying” and youre left with Other People having fun and Random People dying. you cannot possibly think that the cosmos and all the balances of life and death depend on YOU and the amount of fun you have do you? geez! how grand are your delusions? let people get on with having fun and passing on willya?

  6. Comment by Dave in Chicago (2) on November 15, 2005 5:42 pm

    A perverted twist on “magical thinking”…look it up in the psychiatric books. Or just read Augusten Bourroughs, much more entertaining.

  7. Comment by Dave in Chicago (2) on November 15, 2005 10:47 pm

    Btw, that was not a slam! I read it later and thought it could be misconstrued. I meant that reading Augusten is far more entertaining than reading psychiatric books. 😉

  8. Comment by matt on November 16, 2005 12:50 am

    Honey, sad as loss it — those people were elderly. Your aunt has not been well for so very long. These are the normal parts of life that just suck. Time stops for no one. What makes this so very sad is that your family has suffered such a tragic loss this year. A heartbreaking loss and one from which I doubt H&P will be able to recover. I can’t imagine the loss of a child. However, grandparents and the elderly die. It has nothing to with anything other than that.

    The happiness you’ve experienced is a welcome break from a really rough couple of years. I know you too well and fear that there is more to your post than sarcastic humor.

    No one is cursed. Life throws a lot of challenges at us — but it also brings us some great moments of joy. Embrace those moments because that is what life is all about. And, don’t take anything for granted. Never forget that.

    So sorry to hear that bad news, tho.

    Now, stop blaming it on yourself. …even in jest.

    Not cool or true. Hang in there.

  9. Comment by David on November 17, 2005 11:15 am

    Karl, stop it.
    You are not cursed.
    If you were cursed, the fbi would investigate your blog and arrest you for some weird charge or something….

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